When are you supposed to stop saying “mommy” and “daddy” ?
When are you supposed to stop saying “mommy” and “daddy” ?
john
pulsed about this a while back, and for some reason I thought of it today when my dad sent me an email.
When I refer to my parents in conversation with people I do say, “dad” and “mom” but it sounds so strange and unfamiliar to me. But I suppose telling someone that, “my mommy made me some awesome food last time I was home,” would probably raise a few eyebrows.
I sometimes call them by the words “nana” and “amma” which mean “father” and “mother” in Telugu. But usually it’s just “mommy” and “daddy”.
I also feel a bit strange when meeting the parent of a friend or a much older person and they tell me to call them by their first name. In Indian culture, there’s an emphasis on respect for your elders. When you meet someone that’s much older you refer to them as “uncle” or “auntie”. To this day I still refer to my friends’ parents as “Mr.
I’m curious if any of you have strange cultural issues like this.
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yea its rude to call them by thier name i knoe….
p.s: haha i never called my mom mommy or my dad daddy to begin with
so no probs over here =)
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I had a hard time getting used to call my professors by their first names.
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In Korean culture you don’t call elders by their first name either. This means even your siblings. My youngest brother is 9 yrs younger than me. He calls me “noona,” which means older sister in Korean. I don’t think he knew my real first name until he was in 2nd or 3rd grade. My parents decided to finally teach him because one day they heard someone ask him what my name was and he said “Noona Kang.” keke
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In Tagalog (Filipino), we say “Tita” and “Tito,” referring to elderly as aunts and uncles. If someone would be around the same age as an older sister or brother, you say “Ate” or “Kuya.” I don’t think I call any of my friends’ parents by their first name. It just feels wrong. Even my white friend–I call her mom Ms. Brown.Â
My friends, the closest ones I consider family, call my mom “Tita.” It, like, wasn’t even a question. That’s just how I introduced my mom to my friends. Even my close college friends call her that.Â
Oh, and I call my mom “Mommy” all the time, and refer to her as such, too. -
I call my parents Mum and Daddy or Amma and Nana. I speak Telugu, but not very well. After I moved form Hyderabad, I forgot a lot of Telugu and I’m learning it all over again.
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Yeah I have the same issue. Everyone older than me was always uncle and auntie. Great thing to say especially when you didn’t know their names. As for everyone else, the “non-Indians”, come to think of it, I don’t think I ever really called them anything…more like “Hey…you, how are you?”. Ha, I guess I feel like if I can distract them with something happening in the world or something, they wouldn’t notice that I didn’t call them by their names.
As for my mother and father, yeah I still call them daddy and either mummy or mommy, sometimes Amma too. But like you, in conversation, it’s always mom or dad, or just my mother or my father.
But yeah, definitely didn’t really notice it till you brought it up. Thanks =)
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When talking of friend’s parents, I too say “___’s mom.” Hah. I never called my parents ‘mommy’ and ‘daddy.’ More like: Mother, Father, Female Parental Unit (though that was never to their face, aha,) and mom or dad. Depends on the situation.
I don’t see why, at any age, that it would be odd to continue to call them ‘mommy’ and ‘daddy.’ I’d actually think it would be more interesting if people did say things like: “my mommy made me some awesome food last time I was home.”
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My mom is Mom or Mama. She was never really Mommy, actually. My dad, though, is and always will be Daddy (well, he was Papito when I was young and still living in Chile, but by now I’ve gotten used to Daddy instead). I know it probably makes me sound like a spoiled daddy’s girl, but he’s just Daddy.
It took me YEARS to feel Ok calling my in-laws by their first names. Mr and Mrs Lastname felt too formal, first names sounded too casual. So I just avoided calling them anything to their face for a while…
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I was thinking abou this last night. I was raised an only child so there was just my parents and me. When I began to talk I called my mother Helen because that is what I heard my father call her. So to change that he began calling her Mama and I caught on. From then on I always called my parents Mama and Daddy but I became embarassed of those baby names in school. I thought it would be cool to talk like the kids on tv shows and call parents Mom and Dad. When talking about my parents I’d call them my “my mother” and “my father”. But now that I’m older and unfortunately they are deceased I understand that Mama and Daddy are fine names. I called my grandparents Grandma and Grandpa. I was raised to call other adults Mr. and Mrs. and Miss (last name). When I moved to the southern U.S. I discovered some kids are raised to call unrelated adults Ms. (the lady’s first name) and Mr. (the man’s first name). I guess they consider that respectful but not too slack.
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- haha, yeah i sometimes feel like avoiding calling older people except indirectly.
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Hmm, I just call my mother mom and my dad I call by his first name, it’s a bit weird, but I’m used to it now.
I also got the problem with older people though. In German, there are two words for “you”, “du” and “sie”. “Du” is used between friends or family and such, whereas “Sie” is more for strangers. Now when I’m at a friends place, I sometimes accidentally switch to “du” even though I was saying “sie” before. Normally, you only go “du” when the older person asks you if you wanna go over to that.
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I called them Mom and Dad now when I was younger up to about five or six it was Mummy and Daddy.
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i call my mom mummy and my dad daddy. In my country some people call their parents sir and ma’am or ma. In my culture i could call them papa and mama. But it sounds old so its daddy and mummy for me.
